Location is Everything
Is timing everything? Perhaps, but location is everything as well. When you misplace a set of keys you can spend hours looking for them, but if you don’t look in the right place you will never find them. I believe this can apply to other aspects of one’s life as well, the more mental aspects.
Whether its love, friendship, success, or happiness it all come downs to where you are looking.. where you are trying to acquire it from.
Ponder this: Pick something you really want, it doesn’t have to be a tangible item, where is the first place you look for it, what’s the second place you look for it? Why do you look for it in that order?
If you go to a party expecting to find love, lets be honest most people there are just trying to have a good time. If you go to an introduction to ancient studies class, lets be real how many Donald Trumps do you expect to find there.
You have to look in the right place, and sometimes the location is not clear; it may not be easy to see a location and it may not be the prime location. I have always been a driven individual, always had high standards, large goals. Yet, I’ve had my doubts as well with what is plausible and what is impossible; I have thought about settling for smaller goals, more realistic goals. I realize today that when you find out what the location is, you will know you found it and within the location you will find your gold.
Try for success and the moment you start doubting your chances or feel the situation is not playing out like it should, check the background.. you may be in the wrong location.
A Race to the Past
Ever since I was young, I have always wanted to be older. I have always wanted to be mature and wise. I still remember when I was in kindergarten, I would look at the older kids walking home by themselves and would think they were the coolest people ever. In 3rd grade I wished I was as old as Arthur (he was in 4th grade). When I got to junior high the high school kids seemed to be loving life with their free blocks and the ability to leave the premises at their leisure. Then I got to high school and was instead overwhelmed with work. College seemed perfect though, everyone seemed to be partying all the time, and I couldn’t wait to get there. Now that I am here, I love it.. and I am looking forward; but why? My whole life seems to be a race for the future.
Looking back at old photos I miss the innocence, the ignorance, the big cheesy events with the family, and the numerous stupid fights with my closest friends.
I think people are always in a rush to get places, so instead they forget about the journey. Needless to say this is not the first time this has been said or heard, but it is true. I think no matter who you meet, how you meet them, or where you meet them, everyone’s the same. If you take a look back into their past you’ll see the honest little kid who believes in magic, who believes in santa claus and the tooth fairy, and who looks at the whole world in awe and wonders what else out there for him or her.
Ponder this: Behind every monster, behind every giant, behind every individual is the girl or boy next door. It’s the person you’ve known your entire life.
Everyone’s the same, there’s nothing to be scared of. Nothing’s different, nothing’s new. So why rush to the future, you’ll find the same thing you found 15-20 years ago… the only difference: you have to peel back several layers to see it.
You’re on the same train for your entire journey and it isn’t gonna stop anytime soon. Just because you change compartments doesn’t make it any different.
Stop rushing and relax.
Location Check
Is timing everything? Perhaps, but location is everything as well. When you misplace a set of keys you can spend hours looking for them, but if you don’t look in the right place you will never find them. I believe this can apply to other aspects of one’s life as well; the more mental aspects.
Whether its love, friendship, success, or happiness it all come downs to where you are looking.. where you are trying to acquire it from. Ponder this: Pick something you really want, it doesn’t have to be a tangible item, where is the first place you look for it, where is the second place you look for it? Why do you look for it in those locations in that order?
If you go to a party expecting to find love, lets be honest most people there are just trying to have a good time. If you go to an introduction to ancient studies class, lets be real how many Donald Trumps do you expect to find there.
You have to look in the right place, and sometimes the location is not clear; it may not be easy to see a location and it may not be the prime location. I have always been a driven individual, always had high standards, large goals.. yet, I have had my share of doubts with regards to what is plausible and what is impossible, what is reality and what is an illusion; leading me to think about settling for smaller goals, more realistic goals. I realize today that when you find the location for whatever you are trying to locate, it will no longer be a mystery; you will know that there lies your gold.
Try for success and the moment you start doubting your chances, the moment you feel like the situation is not playing out like it should, check the background. You may be in the wrong location.
Watch and Learn
Observations: key to deciphering anything and everything. The best way to solve a problem is to see how everyone else is solving it. That is why when start up companies come up with business proposals they look to companies that are successful and then use their successful models as a basis for there own, and merely add or make a few necessary changes. Similarly, I believe all of us have something great to offer the world, but lets be real, having one great attribute is not the same as having ten.
Psychologists are coming to the realization that people are not shaped solely by biology, or cognition, or by their environments. It is a combination, we’re affected by everything. So focusing on the environment.. it seems as if not all attributes have to be innate, some can be learned, which is the point I am trying to make.
Sit in a coffee shop and notice the people that surround you. There will be the people with a strong work ethic studying/working, and then there will be people speaking at 100 mph. There will even be people who give the false impression of working hard but really they are just on Facebook.
Ponder the attributes, and differentiate the ones you have to from the ones you want. Don’t try to exemplify the same attribute, just understand why you want it. Worry about the why not the how.
If the why has actual substance, like if you observe someone who has great public speaking skills and you want that..ask why.. because you are a timid person who is usually left unnoticed. So then it just comes down to gaining confidence and losing the fear of judgment of your own views and opinions. Only you know why you feel they way you do about your opinions. If you need to speak in public about them, do it. There must have been a reason for why they are your opinions in the first place, just tell them why. Plain and simple. Just like that attribute most attributes can be deciphered by closely zoning in on the “why” not the “how.”
Break it down now.
Plotting, Scheming, and Winning. Oh my.
Turn on the television during prime time, flip to any popular station, what do you see? What ever it is it is more than likely that it involves plots, schemes, tactics, and/or strategy. Why does all of this exist and why are people so willing to devote endless hours and energy into feeding its fire? Ponder that.
Everything created in this world has a place and a time… like beanie babies were the fad of the late 90’s and now in 2010 silly bands have captured the attention of children from all over… yet plotting and scheming seems to be timeless and ageless. I am not necessarily focussing on the typical backstabbing teen drama; I am speaking in much broader terms. It could be a mere plot to win a competition or even to win somebody’s heart. Whatever the case may be people seem to crave it and thrive off of it’s drive. Problem is, because people delve so deeply into these intricate projects with these supposedly fail-proof strategies they often get carried away and sabotage everything before they even reach the end or just reach the end but end up disappointed with what the end actually has to offer.
In situation one I am guessing too many people got involved and contradictory ideas were spewing all over the place so you lost focus or over analyzing details led to confusion and uncertainty of whether your strategies and tactics were working at all.
In situation two the trip was so exhilarating and exciting that once you got what you thought you wanted you were at the point where you asked yourself what is next.
Question is do people get involved in these situations in the first place because they actually believe that it well help them get to the place they want to be, or is it more for the ride and entertaining themselves because lets face it life would be boring by yourself.
I believe it is both, but I would compare it the top of the food pyramid, the fats and sweets. It is vital to indulge a little bit, but it must be in controlled and in consumed in moderation because otherwise you will just end up an unhealthy, unhappy old fart.
Victory is sweet.
Anonymous asked: How do you find the time to write?
I usually just find a few minutes to write when I actually start thinking about a particular topic, or I write right before I go to bed. But sadly, lately I have not had the time to write because I have been busy; hopefully I can schedule in some writing time soon though!
Anonymous asked: Where do you get your inspiration to write?
Mm well, I usually just take something that happened during my day good or bad, and write about how I feel about that topic in terms of the world in general, but i try to keep my topics as broad as I can without getting in too much detail about my own life.
Enemy: Me
The worst kind of enemy is yourself. If you are ever wondering “why?” the answer is likely to be you. You keep yourself from moving forward and overcoming obstacles because you are on a pendulum with yourself. It is a constant struggle between the angel on your right shoulder and the devil on your left. However, it is not necessarily a devil and an angel, it is merely two contradictory thoughts. For example: you might know that you need to do something because it is the right thing to do and is better for you in the long run, but you might end up seceding to your desires or your false hope by dwelling on the past.
I have come to realize that after a certain point, pointing fingers and blaming others will get you no where because people don’t change. You cannot expect them to be anything other than who they are because the only person you have control over is yourself, what they do and who they are is up to them. By expecting something out of someone other than yourself, you are becoming your own enemy because you have the false notion that you can expect that something else, and if your expectations are not met you’re misery will not be the result of that person it will only be the result of yourself. Unfortunately, sometimes having too much faith or belief in people or situations is toxic because you do not have control in these circumstances and if and when the outcome is unfavorable you can only blame the enemy, yourself.
Ponder this: When you have a deep conversation with someone, and I am talking about a conversation that involves acknowledgment of mistakes, actions, righteous deeds, (the whole nine yards) ask yourself why you are having this conversation. If the answer is because you are trying to get them to see the light, then you are merely making your enemy (YOU) stronger. If the answer is you are trying to talk it through and JUST lay down the facts so they can make their own choices (this means you don’t talk with a preconceived notion of what the outcome should be) then you are headed in the right direction.
Dump the false hope and get real. Be your friend.
magic24 asked: awww i love how you thinkkkk so i have a question...are bunnies able to fall in love????
well generally i’d say anyone of all shapes, sizes, and colors can fall in love… but i know which bunny your referring to and in this rare case scenario i’m afraid i have some bad news :P
Anonymous asked: wow aish! you are an amazing writer :) such meaningful posts! <3 shikha
Aww :) :) I didn’t know you read them, i’m glad you liked them! PS. I miss you and its been too long lets catch up!!
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